We all know of the tradition of parents
leaving properties and large sums of money to their children in their wills
when they die? Well it appears that this long held tradition is on its way out
in the UK and USA and certainly is spreading to Nigeria. Many parents are still making huge financial contributions to support children
and grandchildren even into adulthood due to current financial difficulties. As people are living longer in many other
parts of the world (apart from Nigeria it seems) they are spending more to
support their lifestyles and retirement.
Many wealthy over 60s are travelling the world and treating themselves
to luxuries they could not afford when they were younger. Bill Gates the owner
of Microsoft and one of the wealthiest men in the world has famously said that
he intends to spend all of his wealth and give very little or no to his
children because he does not want to cripple them as he has already equipped
them with good education and training. He wants them to know what it is like to
work for their money and achieve their own wealth and have a sense of pride in
what they do. Here in Nigeria, we hear so many cases of children fighting for
many years after their parents have died, over one house or the inheritance
that the parents have left them. Again in Nigeria, we frequently have families
where there is more than one wife or numerous children from various women,
which makes it a nightmare to share the inheritance left behind. Often you find
the first wife trying not to let the children of the other “small” wives get
their hands on the man’s inheritance. But it seems this is becoming a thing of
the past as the older generation now need to use their money to fund their own
retirement.
It is perhaps not something you hear about in the
media every day, but statistics show that the divorce rate among retirees (over
50s) is increasing rapidly. Whenever we talk about divorce rates or couples
separating, we typically focus on the impact that the divorce will have on the
couple’s children. Very rarely do we discuss the impact on the individuals
themselves, or on their healthcare and living needs. This is an issue that has
been growing for a few years now and is now at a point that requires attention
and action to prevent our society fragmenting into copy cat versions of
developed societies which are already having problems catering for a rapidly
ageing population with no obvious financial means of supporting themselves.
Whatever inheritance that would have gone towards children, is now being
diverted to cater for the needs of the parents. In the UK the divorce rate for
couples over the age of 60 has grown by an amazing 30% just in the last ten
years. Furthermore, there has been an increase in the number of elderly over
age 75 that are now living alone. In terms of pressure on the care system, this
could mean that adult social care costs could increase at a staggering rate,
especially if divorce rates continue to increase in the same way they are now.
There is an ongoing argument that children are
becoming even more reliant on their parents to help and support them
financially for longer. Of course, there are a variety of different schools of
thought related to why this is happening. One reason is the decline in our
education system, the societal decay and the lack of jobs One thing to keep in
mind when discussing the evolving family make up, is that not every parent
manages their parental responsibilities in the same way or have the resources
to support children or even themselves, and even furthermore, parents can
really only do so much to manage how their children react to the everyday
struggle of real life. That being said, adult children will essentially live
their lives as they see fit, whether it was the way in which they were raised
or not. Perhaps one of the biggest things to keep in mind when focusing on how
children have grown to be so reliant on parents is the way in which parents now
help their children, which is quite different from years and decades passed.
The method of helping has certainly evolved and has grown to include much
larger expenses and costs. It is no longer just that parents give their
children a car for their birthday when they have reached the age old enough to
drive. Now, parents seem to be taking financing to a new level. Some parents
are even taking on the responsibility of using their own properties as
guarantors for mortgages for their children or even giving the children their
savings to buy land or property to support them. This is a growing problem
I think this is a charming issue, I expect you would surely post on it again sometime near the future. Thanks guys!wepaythemost.co.uk
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